Communication
Ask an adult for help without losing control
You can ask for support while being clear about what you want, what you do not want, and what may need to stay private.
Reviewed July 15, 2026Do now
Take these three steps.
- Pick someone whose actions make you feel safer, not just someone with a title.
- Decide what you want from the conversation: listening, advice, a ride, an appointment, or action.
- Start with the smallest true sentence that gets the conversation moving.
“I need help with something. Before I explain, can you tell me what you would have to share with someone else? Right now I need you to listen and help me think through options.”
If that is not possible
Keep another route open.
A parent is not the only possible adult. Consider another relative, teacher, counselor, nurse, coach, doctor, librarian, youth worker, or friend's parent you know well.
Bring in more help
Do not carry this part alone.
Adults in some roles may be required to report abuse or immediate danger. It is reasonable to ask about those limits before sharing details.
See immediate-help options →Sources
Where this guidance comes from.
- U.S. Office of Population AffairsAdolescent Development Explained ↗
Whole-person guidance about physical, cognitive, emotional, social, and moral development.
- ChildhelpNational Child Abuse Hotline ↗
U.S. call, text, and chat support for questions about abuse, safety planning, and reporting options.
This is general educational guidance. Rules for minors, confidentiality, healthcare, school obligations, and reporting vary by location and situation.
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